Author: Michael Chabon
Title: Manhood for amateurs : the pleasures and regrets of a husband, father, and son
Narrator: Michael Chabon
Publication Info: HarperCollins, 2009
This book collects together essays by author Michael Chabon about being a husband, father, and son. Particularly his efforts to avoid the cliches of masculinity in these roles. I can relate to his sensitive and introspective thoughts on fatherhood. One particularly interesting essay discusses the loss of wildness in childhood (much like the concerns of Free Range Kids’ Lenore Skenazy). This goes beyond children being able to wander around outside though as Chabon discusses how fart jokes in children’s books and movies have allowed adults to gentrify what once was a means for children to rebel against the grown-up world. Other essays are less relatable such as the uncomfortable reminiscences of his early sexual encounters with much older women. The essays are good and bad, but the good outnumber the bad and they all offer something worth reading.
“A father is a man who fails every day.”
“Make all families are a kind of fandom, an endlessly elaborated, endlessly disputed, endlessly reconfigured set of commentaries, extrapolations, and variations generated by passionate amateurs on the primal text of the parents’ love for each other. Sometimes the original program is canceled by death or separation; sometimes, as with Doctor Who, it endures and flourishes for decades. And maybe love, mortality, and loss, and all the children and mythologies and sorrows they engender, make passionate amateurs–nerds, geeks, and fanboys–of us all.”
Recommended books: American Nerd: The Story of My People by Benjamin Nugent, Free-Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy and Lost In Place: Growing Up Absurd in Suburbia by Mark Salzman